“You are just like your dad/mom?” Have you heard those statements before? Today, I will be focusing on the generational patterns and strongholds that has been passed down to us and our children. It wasn’t until I became a wife and mom that I realized I am so much like my parents and relatives- some traits I didn’t like at all.
The Bible says that “parents are not to be put to death for their children, nor children put to death for their parents; each will die for their own sin. Deut 24:16
God doesn’t punish us based on generational sins, but our inclination to repeat negative generational patterns can have its own consequences
What are generational Patterns and strongholds?
Generational patterns enter our lives through genes and by imitating our parents. We may notice these patterns as we lead respective roles of a spouse, parent, professional jobs, or church ministry.Any behavioral traits that is imitated just like a family member.
A habitual weakness that is repetitive and hurtful to God and others.
An addiction that is out-of-control or a sinful fortress that has been passed on from one generation to another.
Identifying generational patterns from the Bible :
David battled with lust, Solomon his son had 700 wives.
Jacob cheated his father, his sons lied and cheated Jacob from his favorite son, Joseph.
Rebekah showed favoritism with Jacob, and Jacob showed partiality by favoring only one son over the remaining 11.
Eli spent more time in the sanctuary, and didn’t correct his two sons when they were young. The sons chose wickedness
Hannah disciplined herself and sought the Lord for a child. Her son Samuel became a great prophet of God.
Mordecai raised Esther to love her people and God. Esther never forgot her values even when she was a Queen in a gentile land.
Zachariah, the priest raised his son along with his wife, Elizabeth with much prayer. John, the Baptist was the voice in the wilderness.
A categorical pattern of strongholds:
Is dinner time focused on discussing about the faults of extended family members? Are you always on the phone trying to get information about others?
Father has been a workaholic whether in the ministry, or secular job. Have you been an overachiever, and felt the need to prove yourself?
Husband who repeatedly abuses his wife and children paves for a dangerous pattern to be followed by his sons.
Dad abandoned his responsibilities, and daughter is afraid of commitment issues.
Grandparents have been too controlling and intrusive. Parents have followed the same pattern by meddling in their children’s lives.
Uncontrollable Anger: Throwing stuff on others, breaking expensive items or using sharp objects to punish kids.
The habit of hoarding items for years or the pride that our home and family is better than our neighbors.
Gluttony, alcohol and use of medication pills for comfort and to forget pain.
Criteria for punishment from the Lord:
For New Testament believers, the one standard we are held upon by the Lord is if we are His children and have been saved. God forgives the iniquities of everyone who repents with a broken heart.
God doesn’t punish us for our parent’s sins. As adults we must make wise, Biblical choices and stop blaming our lineage for the messes caused.
Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the LORD Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
RECOGNIZE HABITUAL BEHAVIOR:
Note down your personal struggles ,any patterns that seems destructive.
There is an immediate need to acknowledge the presence of Lord Jesus ,for He alone can break these strongholds. Every man is conceived in sin, and must be transformed by the Gospel to be a new creation.
Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me Psalm 51:10 ,NASB
He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy” Proverbs 28:13,KJV
BE A STUDENT OF GOD’S WORD:
What does the Bible say about this problem that I am facing? Be prepared to face the Devil.
He who has clean hands and a pure heart, Who has not lifted up his soul to falsehood And has not sworn deceitfully.Psalm 24:4
And the Holy Spirit comes, will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment; John 16:8
FAST AND PRAY :
Pray that the next generation will not struggle with the issues you are facing right now. Job prayed and offered sacrifices on behalf of his children every single day.
For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance as our way of life. Ephesians 2:10
And not be like their fathers, A stubborn and rebellious generation, A generation that did not prepare its heart and whose spirit was not faithful to God. Psalm 78:8
CONFESS OUR SINS, and SURRENDER THE DESIRES:
Face the truth about the issues that have caused lot of agony to your family and the Lord. Submit yourself completely to the Lord, and resist the temptations. Remember,the Lord has won the battles for us.
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 2 Corinthians 5:17
The weapons of our warfare are not the weapons of the world. Instead, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 2 Corin 10:4,5
SEEK HELP :
Many addictions need thorough healing and it is wise to seek godly counsel from your local church or even certified counselors. Here is a link for counseling center by email or by phone : Focus on the Family
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. James 5:16, Esv
It is important to break ourselves free from the negative generational patterns today so our children can also experience freedom and blessing in Christ Jesus @Dianas_Diaries
Have you struggled with any of these strongholds?
Which of these verses convict you today?
Until we meet again