How to be a Sister’s keeper with these 7 excellent qualities

How to be a Sister’s keeper with these 7 excellent qualities
A Sister’s Keeper or killer :

One of the blessed roles God has given me is the role of a sister. Anyone who knows me personally knows that I am a protective sister, and I am very grateful to God for my siblings.

For the year 2018, the verse I received from the Lord is that “the battle belongs to the Lord”.

Each week as the Lord leads I will be writing about the different battles we may face on the earth, and how we must look to the Lord for victory. 

And the LORD said unto Cain, where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper? Genesis 4:9, KJV

Abel was a keeper of sheep, and his older brother Cain was a tiller of the ground. In the process of time when it came to offer to the Lord , Cain offered fruits and Abel gave the finest of his firstborn flock.

The Bible says in Genesis 4:4-5 that when Cain saw that the Lord was pleased by his brother’s offering, the former was hostile.

The Lord warned Cain, and yet Cain went ahead and committed murder. It is after the act that the Lord asks him the question in verse 9- “Cain, where is your brother.”

Cain’s hard hearted, chilling reply is the very topic of today’s post. The Battles within sisterhood

A Sister's Keeper

Who is a Sister’s Keeper?

Anyone who is willing to accept and carry prayerful responsibilities of their fellow brother or sister selflessly and wholeheartedly. No violent acts are ever committed to destroy their sister’s lives.

Here are 7 excellent qualities a Sister’s Keeper must hold:


1.A sister is not jealous of her sibling’s calling:

Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him. Genesis 4:8

Cain was jealous of Abel and how the Lord was pleased with his brother.

Have we belittled our sisters in Christ who have chosen to be stay at home moms, or have a unique style of parenting, or who are still single?

How do we treat those whose wombs are still waiting upon the Lord, or who have lost their loved ones? Are we jealous of other sister’s achievements?

2. A sister doesn’t complain about her sibling to parents, or other friends

But Martha was very busy and distracted with all of her serving responsibilities; and she approached Jesus and said, “Lord, is it of no concern to You that my sister has left me to do the serving alone? Luke 10:40

Martha wanted to serve food to the Lord, but Mary wanted to worship the Lord.

So, what did a distracted Martha do? She complained to the guest.

Have we allowed the problems within our homes to be aired with others and ruin reputations?

Remember, the Lord is a KEEPER and stood up for Mary.

3. A Keeper is protective of her sibling’s welfare:

Then David spoke to the men who were standing by him, “What will be done for the man who kills this Philistine and removes the disgrace [of his taunting] from Israel? 1 Samuel 17:22-35

 Young David was sent by his father to bring meal for his older brothers and bring back news about them. As David reaches the camp, he hears the challenge put forth by a giant named Goliath.

So, when all the other trained men turned out to be cowards, this is what young David decides to do? He decides to face the giant and kill Goliath who defied the armies of the Living God.

David was the youngest and yet proved to be a keeper of his older brothers.


4. It is important for a Sister’s keeper to pursue peace, and build one another up

So then, let us pursue [with enthusiasm] the things which make for peace and the building up of one another [things which lead to spiritual growth] Romans 14:19,AMP

5. A sister’s keeper does not render evil for evil.

Even when Peninnah targeted Hannah, the latter made sure to release her sorrows in front of the Lord. I Samuel 1:2,6 . Has someone targeted you and your family recently? Did it make you run to the presence of the Lord? I pray so.

Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you. Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other.1 Thessalonians 5:12-13

6. A sister’s keeper admonishes in love and not in contempt

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy. Proverbs 27:6,KJV 

If your brother sins and disregards God’s precepts, solemnly warn him; and if he repents and changes, forgive him. Luke 17:3, AMP

7.A sister’s keeper prays, carries burdens, and intercedes daily for her loved ones.

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. James 5:16, ESV

Moses cried out to the LORD, saying, “O God, heal her, I pray!” Numbers 12:13.KJV

This is a  cry of a dear brother for his sister Miriam’s leprosy from the Lord. Miriam decided to speak against Moses who had married an Ethiopian woman.

Have we formed groups and sidelined our sisters and brothers in Christ just because they are not one of us?

The next time a family member revolts against us, let us pray and intercede for that person and ask the Lord to forgive them.


-Have we buried our sister in a pile of hatred, and jealousy?

-Have we used the sickle to dig out the past issues, and alienated our sister in our church and family?

-If God were to ask us, ……… where is your sister? What would our reply be?

-How have we handled our rage against our helpless sister or brother in their time of need?

We may not be a complete keeper of anyone on this earth, but we are forbidden from committing any acts of violence, mistreatment, or slander.

The Lord heard the cry of Abel’s blood asking for justice. I have goosebumps just typing that. The cries of those who we have knowingly wounded have reached the Lord’s ears. Justice belongs to the Lord.

Let us vow to use that sickle instead to plant seeds of joy, friendship, love, and forgiveness towards our fellow sisters. 

Until we meet again here,

A sister’s Keeper, 


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About Diana

I am a daughter, sister, wife, and mom to my triplets. Each of these God given roles have shaped me to be the woman I am today. My blog is about how I have found God to be alive in me through the lessons I keep on learning each day. Through the storms and songs in the darkest hour I saw God standing with me.
Christianity is not a religion to me but a personal relationship I have with my Creator who so freely gave His life for me .
Dear Friend, I pray that you too will know this Savior who died not only for your SINS but also for all your SORROWS on the Cross. May you be found in HIM.

Philippians 3:14 (KJV) I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

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  1. This is so interesting, Diana! The enemy comes to sow deception. We think it’s okay to tell what so-and-so did and justify it somehow when it’s actually slander. Love really goes a long way. These seven points are food for thought. Am I being my sister’s keeper?

  2. Great message, Diana. The sisterhood is such a valuable part of the family of God. Praying we remember to honor this gift of kinship in the Lord. Thank you for sharing today, Diana. Hope you have a wonderful new year! ♥

  3. Wonderful words to self examining just loved it…
    N thank u for always making us learn new things from the things u experienced…..
    Wish u a Happy New Year… Have a blessed year ahead.. Lots of love to u all… Miss u all…
    Come soon…..

  4. It’s so interesting that women, designed to be the most nurturing and expressive of care and love, have instead become plagued with such destructive behaviors toward one another. This post is beautiful – and so needed! Satan fears a strong, God-honoring family of believers. Women have such a unique ability to create just that. It’s time to set aside our flesh, and put on the nature of our Creator. Thank you for yet another wonderful post, Diana. xoxoxo Visiting from By His Grace.

    1. I love your take on this post ,Rebecca. Women are created to be full of love and care and yet they do tear their fellow sisters down. Thank you for this thoughtful and amazing comment. Blessings 🙂

  5. Ah Diana – I am blessedly overwhelmed by the exhortation in this post! Women in the church need to pursue peace and love over division, confessing our sins to our Lord instead of pinning them back against our beloved sister! Thank you!

  6. This is a great list, Diana. One thing I want to instill in my kids is to give other people the benefit of the doubt instead of thinking the worst about them right away. I think that could fit under #4. It just makes a huge difference when it comes to those little offenses that are misinterpreted. Thanks for sharing on Grace and Truth.

  7. You really helped me think about the story of Cain and Abel in a new light. Thank you! Slander is so damaging. We really need to be careful. Great post! Thank you for sharing at Grace and Truth. I would love to feature this tomorrow.

  8. Great post Diana! I continue to reflect on your words and consider “Am I my sisters’ keeper?” Food for thought for sure. Congrats on your feature!! Blessings.

    1. Donna, what a delight to read your comment here today. As sisters , let us always be a blessing in each other’s lives just as you are right now 🙂

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